Paradigm Shift

I named this blog that because my way/pattern of thinking has changed...Let me explain something...so I used to believe in SoulMates when I was a lil younger like up until I turned like 22....27 now...A lot happened..but I'd gotten to the point where I felt like there was no such thing as SoulMates..I'd seen so much and just felt like it was silly, naive, and ridiculous to think that there was someone for everyone..Just didnt seem like everyone was gonna get a fair shake...I now realize that SoulMates exist...I felt like Christians make Spirit lead choices..but surely there was no such thing as soulmates..The mother of this way of thinking was DOUBT...I simply did not believe that the possibility of 2 people being completely meant for one another was possible...with everything I have experienced over the past years watching relationships..dealing with various people..my faith had to be restored...cant say what exactly did it..various things I guess..my Bishop always says U choose u loose...I started to believe otherwise for reasons that I can not understand now-in retrospect-I now whole heartedly agree with Charles Harris..LOL..He has been married 52 years! I made a choice recently based on what I thought was spirit lead...it was really emotion lead, and it was a mess! So I told the Lord that I concede..LOL..So I will continue to wait until my SoulMate is ready, willing, and able to connect with me, so that we can move forward in the destiny God has for us....
I'm really gonna try to stay off of relationships from now on...gonna really try.


Love yall,
Kiyah

Food For thought

MY friend opened up the question about whether marriage is more NATURAL or SPIRITUAL, he also delved in the difference between dating engagement etc....he had some great insight, so I wanted to share, enjoy =)>>>>>>>>>>>

Question Posed: What tips or guidelines would you suggest for the dating christian?OR Do you even believe that christians should date?Lastly, is the institution of marriage more natural or more spiritual?CHOOSE TO ANSWER ONE OR ALL!!! LEAVE A COMMENT!!!! JOIN THE CONVO!!!!!

Joshua says: I believe the misconception is that we are implying the fact that we are saved...So of course, to the saved person, we will apply more spiritual application to marriage...However, lets remember that we are talking about the "institution of marriage"..If we say its more spiritual than natural.....What happens when two unsaved people mary and stay married for 50 years?...Secondly, analyze this passage of scripture - 1 Corinthians 7:34 - There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.My question is How can "careth for the things of the world" be more spiritual than natural?..I do believe it has many spiritual applications, but its obviously more natural...

PART II
Question Posed:
IF MARRIAGE IS CREATED BY GOD THEN WHAT IS SO NATURAL ABOUT IT?
Joshua says:I would say neither...As I have always stated that its MORE natural than spiritual.....There is definitely a spiritual side because it is indeed created by God.....I'm not arguing that, However the scripture teaches us that we he/she who is married careth for the things of the world and how they might please their spouse..Notice the key element of marriage is "Pleasing the spouse"..If I'm married, I must provide for my wife, please my wife, protect my wife, get along with her, be attracted to her, love her, and be compatible with her..Those are all natural things that must be done when I'm married..However, nothing changes about my spiritual walk with God when I get married..I still have to be saved..regardless..However, when I get married, these natural implications are added to the equation..And dont get me wrong..OH I WILL GET MARRIED!!!!! lol..I dont want anybody to misinterpret me.MARRIAGE IS A WONDERFUL THING!!!!!!

PART III
On the topic of Engagement&Dating
when we say that the bible speaks on only two committed relationships - marriage and engagement, we run into a deep rut because in our modern day society we automatically uphold our form of "engagement" as the same as the "engagement" in the bible......However, this is not the case....My reasoning is as follows:
- Firstly, I would implore everyone to study Jewish custom regarding engagement/espousement
- Secondly, According to Jewish Custom when a couple would become engaged (espoused/betrothed) there was a ceremony
- Thirdly, "Wedding VOWS" were exchanged
- Fourth, They were bound by these vows... Read More
-Fifth, they had to wait a year to consummate or have sex....also at this time they could move in together
- Lastly, in order to get out of your "engagement" you had to get a divorce (such is the case of Mary and Joseph)

This is nothing like our form of engagement..We can't compare it to the bible's form.I don't believe that dating is a "commitment".I believe it's an acknowledgement between two people that we are interested in one another and we are getting to know one another..Commitment between men and women before God is done only when vows are exchanged..When someone gets engaged today, they are not bound under the law to marry that individual..That's why I don't believe we can use that like the bible does..So basically commitment only really starts once vows are exchanged according to the bible..

Lots of great ideas were shared...it def gave me food for thought and I wanted to share..hope it makes you think too!

Love ya!
Nakiyah

Thoughts

Seems like my thoughts have been all over the place this past week and a half...I was starting to get mad at myself...LOL...but I am clear about what I want for my life at this moment in time..that might change... but I feel good about my process. Continuing to understand that there's a big difference between what u really need what u want..I had to come to terms with the fact that I've always felt that since I was a "good girl" that God should give me what I want..all the time. Kinda spoiled right?! LOL..I am meditating on the words of James 4:6.. U have not because you ask amiss. So I went to God again in prayer and said Lord..I want what you want for my life..no matter what it is...That is what has freed me here lately..with all the knowledge and revelation God is blessing me with ..I am still hard headed at times like everybody else...Especially when it comes to matters of the heart...I am usually a very loyal person and it's hard for me to let go or give up on a person..but I have had to release some things to the LORD against my will..I bless God for growth..
I am learning so much about myself now more than ever because I am truly for once and for all saying Lord search me....and then listening with an attentive ear to what he says about me..yall keep praying for me because I feel your prayers. I truly love all of you that I share my mind and heart with..Thx for reading and caring abt what I think...because I am surely not all that, but the grace of God is on my life

XOXOXO Love u with the love of the LORD!!!