Letting Go

There is such a freedom in letting go,once you finally do it...The struggle is finding the courage and resolve to do so. The hardest part of letting go is making all the necessary preparations and steps in order to do so. Convincing yourself that your loyalty to someone or something stops at a certain point, dealing with the after effects of the vacancy that letting go creates,telling yourself that you really are better off without said person/thing. All of this grueling preparation for that liberating moment when you do what's best for you and your future and not what's best for your here and now.Sometimes we pro-long letting go because it satisfies a temporary desire. It takes maturity, strength of character, and some serious guts to do this. You really have to be completely convinced that it is necessary to let go. If anything in your life is not growing then you need to let it go. God has given you the Holy spirit and intuition, you have a good idea of what you need and what suits you. Granted there are times when the Lord will use someone to be the voice of reason about things that you overlook, but you generally know what you need to do to make things happen in your life.

Don't be afraid of transition. Oh believe me, I know that transitions and letting go can be traumatizing at times. However, the after effects yield such favorable results that you recognize that it is an absolute MUST. Letting go requires daily affirmation, you have to remind yourself on a daily basis why you are doing what you are doing. If you don't do this you will easily slip back into old habits. Whether it's "stinking thinking" or just plain "busy thinking" such as: ruminating about why you didn't do it sooner, what people will think? why me? what am I going to fill that void with? Although these are valid thoughts,when we OVER ANALYZE things we subject our self to the weakness in our own interpretations. Life has a way that is sometimes a great mystery. In order to make sense of this mystery there has to be balance in our thinking about the transitions we go through. Great confidence in our gut is required, but we also have to rely on God to smooth out the path that follows the transition.

The good thing about it all is knowing that you will be stronger, wiser, and better after it's all been said and done. Letting go is an amazing feeling, it frees you from worry, the mother of stress LOL. God loves us and knows us best and if He brings us to it, He will bring us through it.

Love Yall Much!
:-) Kiyah

Listen.....

For every season in your life there is a purpose and when you are in your purpose your passion will flourish, and when your passion flourishes WATCH OUT!!

Never let pain, hurt, or disappointment stymy your growth. It can absolutely catapult you into a new season. There are situations,times, occurrences in your life where you are placed in someone's life to develop something in them or vice versa and then it's time for you to move on. Be sensitive to God and listen when he says to let go. What will happen if you don't is the very thing that loved you and looked to you will no longer love you or want to look to you. You will think it's them or you and it's not, the process/season is over and now it's time for the next assignment. This is why the bible says that we should pray without ceasing. When we truly remain prayerful, we will know when the sand in the hour glass has made it's last drop to the bottom and that it's time to turn the hourglass over and begin a new chapter...
Love you all much! Keep loving each other and keep loving God! :-)

transitions

There is soooo much on my mind right now...I will give it to you all as clearly as possible. I have not blogged in awhile because I couldn't decide what to share. As I sit here on this Tremendous Thursday I realize that I am at another pivotal point in my life. Realizing everyday who I really am...embracing parts of me that have been dormant for so long.. There are times when insecurity speaks to our consciousness and it's not accurate, and then there are times when the core of who you are speaks to you and either reminds you of key things, or heightens your senses to things that you are not paying attention to. That happened to me this morning...a gut feeling...can't explain it in too much detail. I just had a shift in thinking.I've said this so many times and I will continue to do so, don't smother, stuff, or stifle your true feelings. They will only come back to haunt you. I'm not just talking about romantic feelings....your needs, what you expect, what makes you tick. When you don't it festers until something triggers and then BOOM there they are again and you have to deal with them.

Sometimes we keep at something in expectation of some enormous life altering change...I've been taught to be loyal, hang in there etc...We have to be careful of what we ascribe our loyalty to. If it is not God's will, it won't yield fruit. It will start yielding corruption, confusion,stagnation. Now we know what those things bring with them...doubt, fear, hopelessness, defeat.

Today, I have once again re-committed myself to loving me and focusing on being patient and not hasty. You can't make anyone love you, want you, or verify what they've said to you. The only thing that you can do is keep being you, keep loving folks, and let the chips fall where they might. I truly believe that patterns persist, I do believe that human behavior can change if one is committed to change. However, if someone is consistent in their approach towards you, take them at their actions! This goes for friends, business associates, people of romantic interest, family etc. Sometimes we want what we're not even ready for. Go at your own pace, hold things loosely, and Hold on TIGHTEST to GOD!

Love yall much,
Kiyah!